How to survive a break-up
Breakups are never easy to go through, but they are something that every one of us has to experience at some point. After all, no relationship can last forever though sometimes breaking up is for the best. Before you start writing your break-up message, it’s important to know how to deal with a break-up. Here are some tips on how to survive a break-up.
1. Don’t Fight Your Feelings
A break-up can cause a wide array of strong emotions, such as sadness, anger, confusion, resentment, and jealousy. You're not going to be able to avoid negative feelings from time to time. If you put them on a shelf and forget about them, they'll still be there when you finally decide to take them down. You need to allow yourself to experience these feelings. You may feel like you will never stop missing your loved one, but if you deal with these feelings by having meaningful conversations, doing activities to help others and spending time with other people you care about, you will eventually feel better.
2. Find emotional support
There are many ways you can find support if you don't have a partner. Even if they aren't close friends, you can receive help from others in facing your current situation.
3. Don't be a doormat
If your soon-to-be-ex is calling too much, ask them to stop and make it clear that you need time and space to heal. It's also a good idea to talk to a lawyer if you're worried about their actions.
4. Keep busy
If you wake up early, take a walk, go out to breakfast or do something around the house. Try a little "retail therapy" (go shopping) or enjoy the decadence of going to a movie in the middle of the day. Many businesses allow their staff to take "mental health days" if needed. If you can't sleep, do the crossword puzzle, read or watch TV. Don't sit in your room and ruminate, you have to free your mind so your heart can heal.
5. Don't spend too much time alone
Spend time alone, but do not isolate yourself. Other people are essential for your healing. If your isolation is prolonged , you will face psychological problems.
6. Take your time
You're not really running away from your feelings, you're facing them. If you can survive a few months without a new car or a new home or a new town, then you'll be able to deal with your pain and find love again.
Remember that we can choose how we react to any situation, and you won't always react badly. Things will not always be bad and there's no need to suffer now. Just like everyone else, you can make yourself feel better and love will happen.
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